Halleluja!
So i deleted the metadata table or emptied it this was part of an activity log plugin which i deleted. Interesting the table was still there and i couldnt delete it so i just emptied it. Now page is onl 2.5 something big. Seems to have done the job.
So i could do it. Thanks so much! Hope this was it for the future.
Thanks again for your support and figuring it out.